I would estimate that roughly 80% of the hundreds of Tarot readings I’ve done for clients all over the globe have focused on some aspect of pursuing or maintaining a romantic connection. It should come as no surprise. Research shows that the quality of our relationships affects the quality of our lives.
Finding love is one of life’s biggest challenges and rewards for a lot of us. The world appears more alive and life more meaningful when we feel seen, held, and accepted by someone who shares our frequency and values—a phenomenon we commonly refer to as a “soulmate connection.”
I’m not only talking as an aspiring relationship counselor or tarot reader. I have firsthand knowledge of this and can identify with many of you who are looking for a love-related tarot reading. Actually, that’s how I discovered the cards. I felt alone and depressed about my romantic life at the age of thirty.
A guy I had been going out with wasn’t “the one,” but I needed to know if he was. Even though it was disappointing at the time, that first reading led me on a deep journey to discover how to use the Tarot for myself in order to achieve true, enduring love. Because I committed to listening to my heart’s direction through the cards, it took me less than a year to find my soulmate and live the life of my dreams.
Drawing on my own experience and my knowledge of Tarot, I wanted to offer five strategies for getting the most out of your relationship reading. In order to assist you connect with your soulmate more quickly, I also offer some suggested questions for the cards. Let’s get started!
1. Pay more attention to emotion than shape.
Why would any of us desire a relationship at all? Why even bother? It needs a lot of compromise and a lot of energy. Feeling good is the main motivation for wanting a relationship, regardless of who you are. You wish to feel positive about life, the future, and yourself. However, what if I told you that you can begin to feel that way without actually being in a relationship?
Consider the following situation: You’re reading the final chapter of a book that has just had the most wonderful conclusion you could ever hope for. You feel inspired, happy, and full of optimism as you finish that book. Why? Even though nothing has changed in your life, everything seems to be getting better all of a sudden. By using your imagination, you were able to create sentiments of positivity.
The same change in perspective is necessary while starting a spiritual path for love. Start thinking about the emotions you want a connection to evoke, and then do something to support those emotions in the present. For instance, consider giving yourself a hug in the morning or taking a long, opulent bath to unwind if you value physical contact because it helps you feel protected. It may sound cliché, but it’s effective! Both my own life and the lives of many of my clients have witnessed it.
Tarot question suggestion: How can I increase my sense of thankfulness and happiness in my life?
2. Make a commitment to owning up to your suffering and getting better.
My customers’ and my own search for our soul mates has involved a significant amount of “shadow work.” Even while it might sound frightening, your “shadow” is only the aspects of yourself that you suppress or feel embarrassed about in order to “fit in” or live up to other people’s expectations. Everybody has a shadow self, and a lot of it was developed throughout childhood. Our relationships as adults are frequently shaped by the attachment styles and love-giving and receiving behaviors we learnt from our parents or other primary caregivers.
Examining your prior rejection experiences, worries, and insecurities in a tarot reading can be really therapeutic. It’s frequently sufficient to just acknowledge them in order to weaken them and provide space for more genuine and affectionate relationships to enter your life. I would strongly advise getting professional advice to assist you get rid of some of the limiting thoughts that might be keeping you from finding genuine love if you don’t feel comfortable talking to a Tarot expert about this. For my part, I used the Tarot cards to examine my tumultuous relationship with my father for several weeks.
Finally, I realized that I had wasted years of my life attempting to win approval from people I would never be able to, and that this cycle had been repeated in a number of unpleasant relationships. After I accepted this, I was able to begin imagining what it would be like to meet someone who would love and accept me for who I am.
Tarot question suggestion: In order to find real love, which aspects of my shadow do I need to face and overcome?
3. Permit yourself to embrace who you are.
Since it ultimately allows us to feel deserving of love, we frequently pursue romantic relationships. But what if we took that power away from others and gave it back to ourselves?
The realization that I could offer myself all the love I believed I deserved from someone else was absolutely the most transformative moment of my life. I naturally created room in my life for other people to appreciate me once I started doing that (and it took a lot of practice!). People reciprocate when they perceive that you adore yourself. Additionally, your capacity to help and relate to others really increases when you love who you are. Even while it seems so easy, it can be really challenging in a society that is always looking to take advantage of our fears and sense of inadequacy.
More than anything else, discovering your soul mate will be sped up by learning to love yourself, which is, in my opinion, the most revolutionary thing you can do. Asking the Tarot cards about self-love and self-care is, in my opinion, one of the most worthy questions you can ever pose. The Tarot is here to assist you figure out exactly how to accomplish that.
Tarot question suggestion: How can I develop greater self-love?
4. Have an open mind.
Sometimes a client has asked me about finding love, and the cards’ message has been about something completely unrelated, like “needing to move to Devon” (true story!). This has also occurred in my own life. I was told to “go into retreat” and concentrate on my health when I inquired about how to find love. I chose to follow along even though it sounded counterintuitive because being a hermit doesn’t exactly attract romantic prospects.
As a kind of retreat, I began volunteering at a meditation center and began to monitor my eating patterns more closely. Only a few months later did I understand why the cards had led me in the way that they had. At that center, I eventually met my partner, and we clicked because we both wanted to lead healthier lives. The idea is that everything in your life is connected, even though I never would have imagined that taking those first steps would lead to real love.
Keep an open mind if the advice a tarot reader gives you seems unrelated and has nothing to do with your romantic life. In any case, heed the insight. There are many turns and turns in life. Finding that particular someone will be a unique adventure for you, and it might need for some ingenuity. Be prepared to travel a convoluted and lengthy path. In addition to teaching you a lot more about yourself, it might just help you find the love you’ve been looking for.
Tarot question suggestion: What aspect of my life needs the most alignment to help and bolster my search for love?
5. Make yourself the focus of your inquiries.
I will tell you the truth. “Do they like me?” is the love question I dislike the most. It nearly always seems like a waste of your valuable time and money, even though I completely get where they’re coming from since I’ve been there. I get it a lot. You and your emotions, not someone else, are the focus of your tarot reading.
The knowledge that someone likes you may bring you momentary joy (or sadness, if not), but what are your immediate plans? Wouldn’t it be more effective and preferable to inquire directly what you can do to advance a possible romantic interest or draw in your soul mate? If they’re not for you, the reading will undoubtedly mention that nevertheless.
Never forget that the tarot is there to encourage and enable you to take the greatest possible action. Desiring someone and then waiting for them to enter your life will not accomplish anything. Action is necessary for attraction. We frequently ask questions about other people and their opinions because we are afraid of being rejected or because we feel powerless and disempowered. But if you make the decision to focus on your reading, you’ll leave with practical knowledge that puts you in control of your romantic life.
Tarot question suggestion: How can I draw genuine, real love into my life?
I hope it was enlightening and that it has motivated you to take decisive action in search of genuine, meaningful, and lasting love. I hope you have the happiest life possible.
