Narcissists, or someone who excessively focuses on their own needs at the cost of others, can be difficult to deal with. Our Tarot Reader has some advice for Virgo, Aquarius, and Scorpio on how to deal with the narcissist in their life.
Virgo
What attracted this person to me?– Justice
Initially, the narcissist you’re dealing with was attracted to you because of your sense of Justice. They may have tried to use that deep sense of justice and fairness to manipulate you. Think of how you can maintain your values and advocacy while protecting your boundaries. Please don’t allow your mission to become their weapon.
What is still holding me here? – The Devil
You’ve found something irresistible, and your narcissist both triggers and fulfills some of your deepest desires. They can be so intoxicating to you that you find it hard to recognize how much your life is being warped around them until you can’t imagine even a moment without them.
How can I get free? – King of Pentacles
It will take a high degree of emotional maturity and quite a bit of preparation. You have the resources, but you need to take the initiative. You might need to lean on a strong masculine authority figure’s advice (or outright assistance).
How can I heal? – The Hermit, Reversed
One of the ways narcissists can seize control of lives is by turning us away from our friends. Now is a good time to exit your cocoon and instead reach out to the loving and supportive people in your network – they’ve been waiting for you.
Aquarius
What attracted this person to me?– Eight of Pentacles
Your dedication to your craft – the amount of time you spend honing your skills and your drive to become the best craftsman you can– keeps them coming back. Part of it is out of the fascination they tell you they feel when they’re love bombing you – but a lot of it is just how useful your skills are to them.
What is still holding me here? – 9 of Swords
It’s so terrifying to think of being anywhere else. The fear of what happens once you start to prevent this person from having so much access to your life has such a grasp on your mind that you have problems thinking of little else. You’ve been so concerned about how leaving is so terrifying, that you’ve forgotten the nightmarish anxiety-filled world you’re living in.
How can I get free? – The Hanged Man
It’s going to take a change of perspective for you to be able to see your way through. Instead of letting your mind get stuck in the common pitfalls and fearful notions, think of the perfect route out, and then consider how you can get there. It sometimes takes a venue change – even something as simple as crossing a street – that can shake fresh ideas loose.
How can I heal? – The Sun
One of the most radical steps you can take toward healing is allowing yourself to feel joy and happiness. You don’t have to wait. Keep your mind focused on your optimistic future, and use that vision to keep you going in the trying and difficult times. Your future is worth the work you’re putting in for it.
Scorpio
What attracted this person to me? – 9 of Cups, Reversed
You have no shame about enjoying life’s pleasures – nor should you. Your free spirit and full-on enjoyment of life are attractive to people, especially if they believe they can use your desire for freedom against you. Your sympathy and emotional openness areextremely importante to narcissists. Think about ways you can still enjoy emotional and spiritual freedom while still maintaining personal boundaries within your relationships.
What is still holding me here? – Ace of Swords
You’re dealing with someone extremely smart, and they’ve probably used every tool in their toolbox to keep you within their influence. Take a moment and a huge step back, and call upon your mental and emotional resilience while you examine the arguments they use against you to keep you in place carefully.
How can I get free? – 4 of Swords, Reversed
A time of disillusionment and maybe disassociation has lifted, and you are more awake and aware of just exactly what is going on – and what the emotional and mental stakes are for you. Make sure you allow yourself enough time so that you can make a full emotional and mental recovery, instead of expecting everything to happen immediately.
How can I heal? – The World
Healing means opening yourself up to a new life – one that isn’t being slowly warped into the shape your narcissist wants it to be in. It will take a lot of work and effort to usher in your new life, but you will. Your resilience will ultimately help you attain contentment, and even happiness
