Love that isn’t returned is draining. You may be chasing someone who just doesn’t want to be discovered if you’re the one who consistently opens up a conversation, makes arrangements, and puts in the most work. Here are some clear signs that you should quit chasing after someone who isn’t rushing at you.
1. If they respond at all, it takes them ages.
It indicates that you are not a priority if you are continuously waiting hours or even days for a response while they are active on social media.
2. More plans are canceled than kept.
Someone will make the effort to see you if they genuinely want to. They aren’t invested if they constantly change their plans, falter, or avoid making any at all.
3. You Start Every Discussion
Would they ever get in touch with you first if you stopped messaging or calling? If the response is no, it’s time to reevaluate your position.
4. They Maintain a Surface Level
They may converse with you, but only on informal subjects. They might not see a future with you if they steer clear of more in-depth discussions or private topics.
5. They Don’t Try to Win Your Favor
Whether it’s dressing up for a date, remembering small facts about you, or simply expressing enthusiasm to be with you, when someone cares, they make an effort.
6. You Believe You’re Always Demonstrating Your Value
It’s not a balanced dynamic if you’re constantly attempting to win their favor or convince them that you’re good enough.
7. They Maintain Your Arm’s Length
They don’t allow you get too near, yet they might want your company when it’s handy. This could indicate that they are simply uninterested or emotionally unavailable.
8. They Openly Flirt With Others
It’s obvious that they aren’t serious about developing a relationship with you if they are interacting with other possible partners in front of you.
9. Your Intuition Tells You Something Is Wrong
You most likely already know the answer in your heart. Trust your gut if anything seems strange; it’s generally correct.
10. The relationship is never defined by them
Believe them if they say they’re “not ready for anything serious,” avoid discussing exclusivity, or avoid naming what you have.
You will only feel exhausted and let down if you pursue someone who doesn’t want to be discovered. The proper person won’t make you feel like you have to run the race of love alone; instead, they will meet you halfway. It could be time to move on and find someone who genuinely values you if you see these symptoms.
